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What is Directed Emotion Therapy

Directed Emotion Therapy has a ten day, simple form and is largely based on the principle of self healing. It is a fast and very effective method of achieving changes in a person, in an easy and direct way.

The therapy is particularly suitable for:

  • developing of self-confidence
  • achieving deeper relaxation
  • improving every form of communication
  • finding a good balance between work and home

The therapy is very successfully used with:

  • work-related problems (authority conflicts, inability to delegate, fear of failure, and so on
  • burnout
  • relationship problems (such as fear of abandonment and of bonding)
  • anxiety, stress and depression
  • psychosomatic disorders 

Your change is brought about by motivation, faith, trust, cooperation, sacrifice, respect and the desire to change. Neither you nor your therapist can bring about the change without the help of the other. 

Analysis Before
Before therapy, a (non-committing) analytical interview is held, on the basis of which, a fairly accurate ascertainment can be made, whether this form of therapy is useful to you, and what result you can expect from it.  

The Sessions
The sessions are held in ten successive working days. They take place every day at the same time, because we make use of a natural 24 hour rhythm. The sessions always start on a Monday and take about two hours. 

Every day has its own program, although re-experiences and your own feelings are always the focal point. The new line of approach that each day has is necessary, so that our subconscious part is not given the opportunity to ‘cover itself’. Every day starts with a conversational part, followed by the actual session. 

During the sessions you lay on a couch, with your eyes blindfolded. This is the only aid used during the sessions. The blindfold prevents outside diversion and strongly stimulates ‘looking inside’. At night, when it is dark, we also worry much easier, don’t we. 

After a simple relaxation exercise, through guided fantasy, the therapist leads you back to your earliest childhood. Little by little old images come back, with the accompanying emotions, which now - finally - can be expressed.

The purpose of the therapy is to make contact with the cause of your problems, to live them through and to utter them. You will come across your blocked emotions as a matter of course. You live through them, and by doing that you remove them. Your own personal energy sets free. Often, becoming aware of a cause, directly leads to a change in your attitude towards life. Sometimes it takes a little longer.  

The First Week
The first five days of therapy are used for finding, easing out, becoming aware of and reliving the negative experiences from which our unhelpful convictions originate. Body language is used, feelings are remembered. You learn to relax, to listen to your feelings, find words for them, and learn how to express those.

Also, you learn to switch off the thinking that keeps you away from feeling. An active training of skills takes place. As therapy progresses, the experiences become more intense. All old displeasures and tensions are exposed and released actively, which brings about the ultimate healing. There is a great sense of relief and liberation. 

The Second Week
The second five days are used for deepening of, and settling final accounts with the negative, wrongly programmed feelings. The last day (Friday) we discuss the expected course of reactions. To this meeting your partner (if you have one) is also invited.  

Instructions and Reaction Wave
During therapy and the first three months following it, you get some instructions to take home with you. While in therapy you were not allowed to drink alcohol, afterwards only a small amount. The reaction wave after therapy takes up about twelve to fourteen weeks. Everything that has been released by the subconscious mind, must be processed; a new balance is being reached. In these weeks and months there is regular contact with the therapist, in the beginning frequently, later as needed. After six, nine and twelve months  check-ups follow. Sometimes, after a year, it appears to be necessary to therapeutically dot the i’s and cross the t’s. Such follow-up treatment or deepening usually takes three or four days. 

Contra Indications
Unfortunately the therapy works less well - or sometimes not at all in the case of:

  • drug use
  • using sleeping pills, tranquillizers and antidepressants
  • addiction to alcohol
  • using hormone preparations like prednisone, and the like

If you are pregnant, you are dissuaded to undergo this therapy on behalf of the unborn baby and the changes in hormone action of the  expectant mother. 

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